Do You Need A Godfather At Work?

It is appraisal season, what better time could there be to convince myself of my competence and decision-making skills?
My "Bridge-Burning" Moment
A little over two years ago, a desparate situation led me to take up my recent role - in an industry I knew nothing about but had begun to hate as a consumer, in an organisation that wasn't the most sought after, and in a team that was just getting formed. I put my haeomoglobin-rich blood, profuse sweat, hard-to-come-by tears, receding hairline, recently stabilised sleep schedule and poor metabolism on the line, and managed to scrape through for a while.
A few months ago, I got the opportunity to repeat most of this in a new role. I had already spent more time in this role than my previous two, and I wanted to do something totally different, so I tried my luck and got through.
And then came the time to have the "talk" with my manager, who himself had been asked to take up another role in the organisation. My breaking of the news met with a series of emotions - denial, betrayal and anger being the first ones to surface. These were followed by a mix of carrot and stick statements like "we were planning to give you a bigger role", "you are nullifying everything you have done so far", "I can stop you but I'm choosing not to", "you shouldn't have burnt bridges like this" etc.
I did not budge despite attempts from multiple people to convince me, and the change finally went through after an agonisingly long period of time, thanks to some prompt talented rangoli artists who also design talent management policies when they are out of rangoli powder.
Temporal Changes In Career Choices
My late maternal grandfather was a State Government officer, and spent his entire career working for them. My father started off as a State Government employee for a few years, but soon joined a Municipal Corporation where he worked for 25 years until his superannuation. Many of my friends' parents working in the private sector also spent their entire career with the same company.
Today, I know someone who just took up a lucrative new role abroad just two months after they had joined their current role, after spending under two years in their previous role. I have friends who went from being employees to founders to artists!
Coveted public sector jobs are unmatched in terms of pay and perks when compared to roles with private companies that don't look for extreme levels of exclusivity. When you want to get done with your education loan at the earliest and get a home loan to buy a home for your family, you want to earn more money as soon as possible; and the easier way to make that happen is to switch jobs often.
Movers and Shakers
When people in junior or mid-level positions decide to switch jobs, they will mostly put in their own effort to find a suitable role, prepare for it and go through the evaluation, negotiation and verification process to land it. But I also learned that when some people in leadership roles move, they prefer taking their junior subordinates along to hit the ground running immediately. The junior employee in the first case is a "mover", but I would label the senior leader in the second case a "shaker", because they could shake up an entire department or even a business unit if they take a lot of people along.
From the point of view of the junior employee in both cases, the first case demands a lot of time, effort and a bit of luck; while the second doesn't as much. Doesn't it also make the second move a little less meritocratic?
The Flavour of A Favour
Don't throw your dictionaries at me, but isn't a favour something done with an expectation of a similar action in return at some point in the future? So, if your boss offers you a role in his new team at their new organisation, who is doing the favour and when will they consider it to be fulfilled (probably not the right word but you get what I mean)?
Both of you save time needed for discovery, and expect things to continue the way they were as soon as your partnership kicks off again. Unfortunately, many of the remaining variables in the equation change, and the result might end up being underwhelming for both.
If you go in knowing unexpected things could happen, you end up being better prepared to handle most surprises that will come your way. This might result in some honest extra effort which will not go unnoticed if the results are good.
To Each Their Own
A popular quote in Marathi by a spiritual leader (Late) Sadguru Wamanrao Pai roughly translates to - "You are the only person responsible for how your life shapes up." If you accept a favour, you are bound by expectations of loyalty and certain levels of output. Meeting or even exceeding expectations is a reflection of your competence and your efforts, and deserves rewards. Expecting loyalty however is stupid, and so is being bound by such expectations. Professional aspirations are always individual.
You could spend a lot of time and effort getting another job, but that will be of your own volition. Sticking to your current job will also be your own choice. In both these cases, you would be prepared to handle the good and bad outcomes, without attributing them to someone else.
If you do choose the second option, treat it like the first one. Expecting something extra will only lead to disappointment and pain.
